How to Find Time For Intimacy After Becoming a Parent
11 tips to try with your partner to squeeze in sexy time with each other
Dearest reader,
Happy Wednesday! We started decorating for fall last week and when I shared that on Instagram Stories, we received so many DM’s saying it was waaaaaaay too soon for all of that. “It’s still summer!” was a common response. And listen, I get it. I really do. It still gets dark at 9p here and it’s 95 degrees outside, worlds away from actually feeling in any way shape or form like autumn, my beloved favorite season.
But.
Our kids are back in school, much earlier than a lot of the country, I’ve learned, and that automatically means our summer is over. And what season comes after summer? Fall. So basically, with that math, it’s fall, which means we can start decorating for said season, and that brings us joy. So much joy. Nothing is more comforting than being surrounded by cozy fall decor, lighting a pumpkin candle, and watching Gilmore Girls on repeat. Is it basic? Yes. Will I still do it every single year? Absolutely.
Speaking of fall, we also rearranged our living room to welcome the new season! We swapped out our white curtains for some mustard yellow ones that make the room feel a little moodier, and we also took the old couch that was in there to Holiday House and brought in the couch that used to live in our office for the living room. Are you still following? We basically played couch swap which is my idea of a good time. I love rearranging rooms and I am so glad I married a man who enjoys it (almost) as much as I do.
In other news, today’s newsletter is a little spicy. Here on Okay McKay, we’ve explored topics like how we keep the spark alive after 14 years (which you can read below):
We’ve also talked about initiating sex in the middle of the night:
And today we wanted to explore a topic and share some tips on how to find time for sex with little ones in the house, because let’s face it, it’s not as easy as it used to be.
Between the school runs, endless laundry, meal planning, and just trying to keep up with the chaos of daily life, finding time for intimacy can feel like trying to schedule a vacation on the moon. But just because the kids are demanding every ounce of your energy doesn’t mean your relationship has to take a backseat. In fact, keeping that spark alive is more important now than ever.
So, how do you make it work? How do you find time for each other when your days are consumed with keeping tiny humans alive and happy? We’ve learned a few things along the way, and today we want to share some tips for carving out that oh-so-important time for intimacy, even when it feels impossible.
OKAY! Let’s get to it
Watch: Elizabeth Taylor: The Lost Tapes
Elizabeth Taylor: The Lost Tapes is an intimate documentary that shows never-before-seen footage and personal recordings of the legendary actress, and offers a rare glimpse into her private life and candid reflections. The film delves into her iconic Hollywood career, tumultuous relationships, and passionate activism, revealing the woman behind the glamorous facade. Through these lost tapes, viewers gain a deeper understanding of Taylor's resilience, vulnerabilities, and enduring legacy as one of the most captivating figures in entertainment history. I found the film both fascinating and heartbreaking, and the whole time I was watching I kept wishing I had paid more attention to her life and career while she was alive. It was a riveting, very entertaining film!
You can watch Elizabeth Taylor: The Lost Tapes on Max.
Read: 100 Pieces of Pop Culture That Defined Obamacore
This article from New York Magazine (paywalled) explores the cultural landscape during Barack Obama's presidency, which feel especially nostalgic for me because it was a pivotal time in my life: my late teens and early 20’s. It highlights key TV shows (like Scandal, Glee, and Orange is the New Black), movies (like Creed), music (Firework by Katy Perry! Kendrick Lamar! Everything Beyonce released!), and other cultural phenomena that defined the Obama years, reflecting the values, challenges, and spirit of that era. It’s a nostalgic look back at the media that shaped and was shaped by the cultural and political climate of the time. A truly fascinating read that you could spend hours going through and reminiscing.
You can read the full article here.
Listen: F-1 Trillion
Post Malone’s new country album really showcases his versatility as an artist, blending his signature style with a fresh, country twist. The album is filled with heartfelt lyrics, smooth melodies, and a touch of nostalgia, reflecting his Texas roots and love for country music. It’s a departure from his usual sound but still feels authentically Post Malone, offering something new for both country fans and longtime listeners (FTR: I am not a huge Post Malone fan and I am definitely not a country fan, but something about this album I love) It’s perfect for a summer drive or a laid-back evening, and while the duets are great, my favorite track on the album is number 6, What Don’t Belong To Me.
You can listen to F-1 Trillion wherever you get your music
How to Keep the Flame Alive While Raising Kids
We had to pick the kids up from school in 20 minutes.
We had just gotten home from the farm and the plan was to relax a bit before walking to get them. We were hot and sweaty from feeding the animals and wanted to cool down before heading out the door. I sat on the couch with the intention of maybe taking a quick power nap, but then something else happened.
PJ came into the living room and sat on my lap, being silly by pretending I was Santa Claus and telling me what he wanted for Christmas (this is weirdly a normal occurrence in our house, haha). With him sitting directly on my lap in his gym shorts and whispering his wish list into my ear, the mood suddenly changed. It went from funny and goofy to a little more serious and sexual. It sounds cheesy, but I couldn’t help it. It was really turning me on.
He started rubbing me on top of my shorts and…